Greetings to the Father, Angels and saints in Christ. The Songs of Solomon show that marital love is fiery, passionate and possessive. One must, however, be careful in the area of love, because society has equated love with sex. Go on a date and in exchange two people go to bed. In a sense, society has prostituted its people and deceived them into believing that sexual intercourse is a panacea for loneliness and sexual desire.

This is a lie, according to the experience of Amnon, the son of David who “loved” or rather lusted for his half – sister Tamar (2 Sam 13). Amnon grew sick from lust (he called it love, but he was really physically and sexually attracted to Tamar) and devised a scheme to get close to his half-sister. You can read the details in 1 Sam 13, but he “loved” her so much that he raped Tamar, refusing to listen to her pleas to fulfill his sexual desire in marriage. The truth was that he did not really want to marry her, he only wanted to taste and take her.

So if you are involved in a relationship that is based on sexual passion, you will hardly likely marry. You may both compromise by living together in order to make one another’s bodies more readily accessible in order to fulfill the sexual desire, but this is not a relationship built on the true principles of love and security. There is no stability here because there is no committment. This lust will burn out after it has been fulfilled. Even if one partner forces the other into marriage, boredom and unfaithfulness results, because lust can only be excited when the object of its desire is unattainable and distant. This is why rapists stalk then kill, because once the desire is fulfilled, that is it. The object of desire is no loner needed.

Second Samuel 13: 14 and 15 show the true nature of Amnon’s purported love or the true nature of lust, which turned to hate after he raped Tamar:

“Howbeit he would not hearken unto her voice: but, being stronger than she, forced her, and lay with her.

Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone”.

This is strange. First of all, he is dying for love, forces her into a sexual act, refuses to marry her, hates her exceedingly after he had fulfilled his wicked desire, puts her out and bolted the door so that she could not return to him. Are these similar to the experiences of people that you know? The truth is that Amnon was possessed by a spirit of lust which was directed at his half – sister in order to steal, kill and destroy.

This spirit had been released into David’s family following his lust with Bathsheba. This is the epitome of human “love”. It sees, it wants, it explores then it PUKES. The object of desire becomes the object of hatred. Why is it that the divorce rate is so high in North American society? Lust takes away and does not give. It deprives the object of its attention of dignity and self-respect. Lust will never marry you. Even if it did, once the desire is satisfied, the luster moves on to a new lusting relationship with a newer, more sexually attractive object of attention. Lust will then put you out and bolt the door behind you, never answering phone calls and eliminating you from its life.

This is the meat of soap operas – one night stands. Meantime, you become tied to the individual in the spirit because there is a bonding between individuals who engage in sexual intercourse. As a result, you carry the individual with you into new relationships. You act out the rejection in frigidity, obsession and hiding the extent of your sexual experience. After all, society does say it is acceptable to lose one’s virginity and to engage in sexual intercourse, but there is a double standard which says that you cannot “go around” too much or you will become too cheap.

Can I talk about the film stars and rich heiresses? Yes. 1Cr 6:16 says

“what? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.”

This truth is in reference to Gen 2: 23 where Adam said of Eve,

“This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

Does the term “one flesh” simply mean that they would unite in sexual intercourse? I somehow feel that more is implied here since they were already one in the sense that God had taken Eve out of Adam’s side, then closed up the flesh after the surgical procedure (Gen 2: 21).

As I wrote that last phrase, I heard in my spirit that they were like Siamese twins, joined at the side in a spiritual sense.

Something of Adam was deposited into Eve (something more than his DNA).

There is a mystical and spiritual connection between two people who engage in sexual intercourse.

This is why marriage is compared to a mystical and spiritual connection in Eph 5. I am speaking out of revelation, just as Paul spoke out of revelation on the issue of marriage, although he had never been married. He got the source of information from a God who designed marriage but whose angels neither marry nor are given in marriage. The point is that a marriage that is based on lust will end in disaster, because lust has no respect for the object of its desire. Its fire burns out quickly like Amnon’s, but the fire of true love endures. There is more to come, but we need to ingest what the Lord is saying today.

Blessings and peace be with you!