Greetings to the Father, holy angels and saints in Christ. In our last post, the Lord explained the relationship between Christ and the church and the mystery of marriage. Christ is the head of the church as is the man to the wife. The church is the blood bought, beautiful bride of Christ.

I will again quote Eph 5: 21-32 which says that we must submit:

“one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church”.

The Lord was also speaking to the head of the wife, explaining that he must take care of her, meet her needs, be loving and tender to her. Don’t treat her like one of the guys, buy her clothing (don’t let her buy all of it). He said that the man should let the wife know what pleases him so that the wife can become (to you), without spot, blemish, wrinkle. Be reasonable in your demands. A wife who truly loves her husband will graciously accede to his requests (e.g don’t go about the house dishevelled or with curlers – the former is a “no-no” and the latter may be based on what irritates him).

Now Jesus had to make a sacrifice in order to buy back the church from satan’s clutches (i.e. call out a people to serve God). He became head of the church by His obedience to His being born in human form and by submitting to death, burial, resurrection and ascension. He had to pay a high price. Adam had to make a sacrifice to get Eve. God put him in to a type of death, a deep sleep over which he had no control. He could not tell God how to fashion Eve. He had to lose a rib and part or parts of vitals organs (was it his heart?) in order for Eve to become “his body …his flesh …his bones…”

Why did God take Eve from Adam and not from the earth? It was to cement Adam’s commitment to her.

The Lord showed me that part of the nature of the man is POSSESSION.

A man takes care of something that he values and cherishes, he takes care of what he feels is special.

The greater the sacrifice to get the possession, the greater the input to care, to keep and treasure it.

God put a deficit in Adam for something. He had a deficit and needed a companion to fill his loneliness. 

In fact, God encouraged him to seek for a helpmeet (Gen 2:18).

In order to become a true husband, you have to give up something – your father and mother and a piece of your vital organs (your heart).

A man has to see his wife as a member of “his body …his flesh …his bones…”

This is why God expects the man to take care of his wife as if she were his body (hence the caption), because when he sees her, he sees himself. She is his glory!

Unless you hate yourself, you would take care of your own body to the best of your ability. In other words, the extent to which you love your wife is the extent to which you love yourself. Look at the proof in Eph 5:

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church”.

You will never love your wife fully (your own body) if you have issues of poor self-esteem, poor self-respect or self-hatred. You will treat your body (your wife) the way you treat yourself. This is clearly revealed in the words “For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church”.

These words have so many implications to be explored. Jesus nourishes an cherishes the church. Read the scriptures and you will see. If a man is to follow the Lord’s example in cherishing and nourishing His body, he can become quite an irresistible mate, hard to live without.

To nourish and cherish your body means to:

  • pamper your wife. You may not be rich, but you can treat her like a queen, like a doll, stroke and pet her like a kitten (in the emotional sense – she will purr).
  • Those words nourish and cherish mean that men should show your wives deeds of kindness.
  • If you encourage her, she will flourish, grow and become like a fruitful vine. You will never be afraid. She will know her affections are secure and settle in the marriage. Your children will become secure in the love of their parents.
  • Tell your wife you love her and reveal it by actions.

I am so poor in knowledge, but if you study the bible and examine the way in which Christ treats the church, your marriage will be tailor-made in heaven. Blessings and more to come.

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