Greetings to the Father, Angels and saints in Christ. Today’s topic sounds hot and juicy and I could not resist. I still have to write on sexual intercourse binds you to the individual, the laws of undying love and fatal attraction. Ok, so we women rub our hands in glee and settle down to the kill.

Step one. Let’s ponder. We wonder ..hmmm. Should it be my most attractive outfit, negligee, my favorite fragrance? His favorite fragrance? What about the scenario? Candle lights? Low lights? Romantic music? Should I weep? Cry? Have a strip tease?

What? All wrong – all wrong. At least from a biblical perspective. Rachel nagged her husband about her inability to have children. Jacob got mad with her (Gen 30: 1-2) because she was wearing on his nerves and asking him to work a miracle (he didn’t have the power or the technology). Hannah was in a similar position to Rachel, because she was one of two wives and also barren. Her husband’s other wife provoked her in just the same way that Leah harassed her sister Rachel. She spent her life grieving and pining for this child, but her help was not in her husband but in the Lord, just like Rachel found out. This is really one foundation principle – your help is in the name of the Lord who made the heavens and the earth. Therefore, for those of us who think that marriage will solve all of your problems, you can think again.

Let’s examine Rebekah. She got what she wanted by deceiving her husband in the most despicable way. She had learnt the tricks of the trade of deception and scheming from her father and her brother Laban. This was the same Laban who later deceived his nephew Jacob into marrying the wrong woman. You can read about her deception in Genesis 27. I know that many women have no compunction about using deception to get what they want from their husbands. However, Rebekah did not think of the consequences of her action which resulted in family strife, Jacob’s attempted murder by his brother Esau and separation in the family. when you read the chapter, she is the mistress of intrigue and executed a well thought out plan which today would be equivalent to fraudulently altering the last will and testament of her husband. Would you trust a wife like that? To what extent would she go to get what she wants? Does she really love you?

How about Samson’s first wife, who was a Philistine? In Judges 14: 15- 17, we see her working in cahoots with his enemies the Philistines in order to give them the response to a riddle that he had posed to them. She went on a seven-day voyage of tears, which were accompanied by accusations that he did not love her –

“And Samson’s wife wept before him, and said, Thou dost but hate me, and lovest me not: thou hast put forth a riddle unto the children of my people, and hast not told it me.

And he said unto her, Behold, I have not told it my father nor my mother, and shall I tell it thee?

And she wept before him the seven days, while their feast lasted: and it came to pass on the seventh day, that he told her, because she lay sore upon him: and she told the riddle to the children of her people.”

Can you picture the scenario? Which soap opera does it remind you of? Well, I don’t watch the soaps, but I can bet that you are screaming at the television and bawling out to Samson that she was a betrayer. Be careful of those tears, because you might just be the one crying. If you really know the woman to be a genuine, honest and trustworthy person, her tears may be the last straw in her book (I hardly cry myself and when I do, it is because I have reached to the very end of all that I can do to solve a problem).

However, be careful of the Philistine women, because they will cry, whine, pet, pat and use entreaties to get valuable information out of you. Next thing you know, you are telling her the answer to the problem and she is selling you out to your enemies. Could be stock market information, too. Be careful. Who am I speaking to? And what does Samson mean when he said to his enemies, “if ye had not plowed with my heifer, ye had not found out my riddle” (Judges 14: 18). That is a riddle in itself. See what he meant? The woman was having a secret affair with his friend (Judges 14:20)- But Samson’s wife was given to his companion, whom he had used as his friend”. Don’t trust those Philistines at all!

Oh my goodness. This unnamed Philistine was tame in comparison to Delilah, Samson’s second wife. I just discovered that her name means “feeble”. For some reason I always had another mental picture of her. Strange, she was really feeble. Don’t get this kind of woman clinging or cleaving to you. It’s just disgusting, to my mind. She was promised a reward by the rulers of her people if she could find out the secret of Samson’s great strength. In other words, she was a bounty hunter. The man’s “best friend, darling, lover, confidante, sugar” etc was really waiting to get his head. I don’t want my imagination to roam far, but I think of those women who marry men to get their money, title etc. Look at the telling story in Judges 16: 5 –

“and the lords of the Philistines came up unto her, and said unto her, Entice him, and see wherein his great strength lieth, and by what means we may prevail against him, that we may bind him to afflict him: and we will give thee every one of us eleven hundred pieces of silver.”

Do you see what they told her to do? She was to “entice” Samson. How would a woman entice a man? When Judges 16: 6 said that Delilah said to Samson, there is no description of the enticement. the Bible is not rated R. Delilah is so honestly conniving that she actually tells Samson what she wanted the information for –

“Tell me, I pray thee, wherein thy great strength [lieth], and wherewith thou mightest be bound to afflict thee” (Jdgs 16: 6).

Men, she was speaking out of the abundance of her heart – she was prophelying about his demise. What is that woman saying to you? You’ve got to listen more carefully, especially when they come with their enticements – make up, fragrances, exposed cleavages, touching hands in your hair, face and body, tight and body fitting dresses and pants, photographs, cell phone numbers, sex appeal, social connections (Delilah had connections, all right) etc. Beware! Beware! Who am I speaking to?

Yes, Delilah had lots of sexual enticements and Samson played the game. He played the game until he got tired and gave away his most precious secret, the secret of his strength. That is what the devil wants. He will use any Delilah to get to your strength in order to incapacitate you (she could be in the church too). While you are playing with her, the lords of the Philistines, the devil and his demons, are waiting next door for the kill. When her enticements failed, she began to nag.

Nagging will get you every time, vex your spirit and cause you to let down your defenses. Look at how this woman got brought Samson to his feet and got what she wanted –

“and it came to pass, when she pressed him daily with her words, and urged him, so that his soul was vexed unto death, that he told her all his heart…” (Jdg 16:16, 17).

Men, you might push off Delilah to avoid sexual sin but remain her friend – late night calls, long calls on the cell etc, but beware, she will get you if you continue to play with her. You will compromise your conversation and walk with God and fall in to a state of backsliding. Delilah knew the exact moment that she had gotten Samson and this was the time that she used her kisses, caresses etc to get him to fall asleep on her lap. She had captured him for sure and just waited until his body relaxed in sleep to call for the lords of the Philistines so she could get her money.

I sound really bald, but I am saddened indeed, because I am seeing some man who has lost his future because of a Delilah. Hope is not lost. God can and will restore what that feeble woman stole from you because of the love of money. Why was she feeble? She was feeble because she did not have the strength of character to love Samson (or any man) for who he was. She was motivated by the love of money. She was not a faithful, trustworthy wife. She was the woman Samson should have run from. She was the one of whom Prov 31: 30 spoke when it said that favor is deceitful and beauty is vain. She was a snake in the grass, a thief, betrayer, who would betray her husband to her relatives. Your heart cannot safely trust this woman.

Did we speak about Jezebel? Not yet? Well, next time because I have to run, There are some good examples and we will talk about them too. Thumbs down for Delilahs and other untrustworthy women. Blessings!