Greetings to the Father, Angels and saints in Christ. Well women, we must really examine these women before you come to the conclusion (in your “liberated” minds) that you just can’t bother with any man. After all, who is a man to rule you? Well, hear from Vashti. Her husband, King Ahasuerus, made her a public example in order to scare the death out of women. Why? She refused to obey what he considered to be a reasonable request to make a public appearance at one of his national events. He wanted to show off her beauty, not do a strip tease.

Why did she refuse to humor him? I don’t know, but it lost her an entire kingdom. The rulers gave their opinion because they were exasperated by Vashti’s response. They thought that she was out-of-order and recommended that the king respond by putting her away and passing a law that would prevent women from rising up against men. The king’s law was distributed to all his subjects of many languages and nations and read, “that every man should bear rule in his own house” (Esther 1: 22).

The language of Esther 1 suggests that the queen had responded to the king’s request in a contemptuous manner, because the king became very angry. Her response was not just simply, honey, I can’t make it today. Could we reschedule? It must have been a point-blank no, with accompanying body language. The words of the king’s nobles in Chap 1: 17-18, also suggest this, and we read

“For this deed of the queen shall come abroad unto all women, so that they shall despise their husbands in their eyes, when it shall be reported, The king Ahasuerus commanded Vashti the queen to be brought in before him, but she came not.

Likewise shall the ladies of Persia and Media say this day unto all the king’s princes, which have heard of the deed of the queen. Thus shall there arise too much contempt and wrath.

The message to women is to be careful how you respond to the king in your life.

Abigail was another woman who disobeyed her husband. However, this was a life and death situation. Her life and that of her household were at stake. We read about the issue in 1 Samuel 25. Her husband was a very wealthy man called Nabal (meaning fool). The scriptures say that “the man was very great, and he had three thousand sheep, and a thousand goats: and he was shearing his sheep in Carmel” (1 Sam 25: 2). He was, however “churlish and evil in his doings”. Churlish means that he was hard, cruel, severe, obstinate (Strong’s in blueletter

The problem arose when David sent his people to ask Nabal to help him with provisions since he and his men had protected the man’s shepherd’s and livestock. Rather than thanking David for helping him freely and voluntarily, Nabal became angry and began to “carry on” as we say at home. He “answered David’s servants, and said, Who is David? and who is] the son of Jesse? there be many servants now a days that break away every man from his master. Shall I then take my bread, and my water, and my flesh that I have killed for my shearers, and give it unto men, whom I know not whence they be?” (1 Sam 25: 10-11).

How do you think David responded when the answer came back to him. Right on target. He

“said unto his men, Gird ye on every man his sword. And they girded on every man his sword; and David also girded on his sword: and there went up after David about four hundred men…” (1 Sam 25: 13).

He was really angry. Now if you are in a similar situation where you did good to people who return great evil to you, it is very unlikely that you will ever do them a favor again (depending).

On hearing about her husband’s response, his wife Abigail responded by urgently gathering food and went to meet David. She did not want to die young and unnecessarily. You can read how she met David and interceded for the life of her family, repenting for the evil that her husband had done. David accepted her pleas and her gifts and she returned home in peace. Meantime, she had to wait until the next day when her husband came out of his drunken stupor before she could tell him what she had done. 1 Sam 25: 37 says that “his heart died within him, and he became as a stone”.

He suffered an instant cardiac arrest as well as a stroke and was killed 10 days later by the Lord. Why? Was it because of the shock that she had dared to give away his precious stuff to the man he hated? I feel so. Did she go into all the details about how she had fallen to the ground and bowed to David etc etc etc? The issue is that Abigail took action in a situation that could have endangered her future.

The same principle must be applied. I am not writing this blog lightly because disobedience had serious consequences (e.g Eve – we did not talk about her). However, if your life is at stake and he insists on taking certain courses of action, you should get out of harm’s way.

Maybe one example will suffice. If your husband is promiscuous, are you at risk for acquiring harmful sexually transmitted infections? Is he asking you to do things that are against your moral and religious convictions (e.g – having a threesome with another man or woman?) The list could go on.

I leave you with blessings and peace and hope to see you again. Until!