Greetings to the Father, Angels and saints in Christ. Blessings and peace to you. Today I would like to examine in brief the love of Jacob and Rachel. He first met her in Genesis 29, in circumstances similar to those in which Abraham’s steward met Rebekah his mother. He introduced himself as her father’s nephew. The scriptures say that she was beautiful and that he kissed her on their meeting. Jacob loved Rachel with an undying love and was willing to wait for seven years before marrying her. Genesis 29: 20 says that the seven years seemed to be just a few days to him because of his love for her. After being tricked in to marriage with Leah, he married Rachel one week later but had to work for Laban for another seven years.

His love was one that was persevering and longsuffering, fruits that are missing in many marriages today. These fruits are evident in the duration of his wait for the marriage and later in the marriage when he had to endure the contests between the two women for his attention as well as Rachel’s pleas for a child. Do you enjoy the qualities of perseverance and longsuffering in your marriage? Are you willing to pray your mate through until change comes (it’s not by nagging or withholding sex, but my spirit saith the Lord). Are you willing to endure tough times, like Jacob had to live through during his marriage to Rachel? Are you willing to wait for the marriage day before jumping into bed? Remember he could not have any hanky panky (I am not advocating a seven-year engagement. He was forced into his waiting period because of Laban’s wickedness).

How about Sarah and Abraham? They are a rather interesting couple for whom I have a few questions. The reason I say this is because they expressed their undying love by trying to please each other by mutual submission. However, the instances in which they submitted to each other seem to be rather controversial. For example, Sarah asked Abraham to marry her maid so she could become a surrogate mother to the child of that union. As we see, the child remained under his mother’s influence, not Sarah’s and became a mocker and a hater of the child of promise as we see to this day. Abraham also made Sarah promise to say that she was his sister in order to save his life when ever the heathen “bigshots” showed interest in her. She was obedient and did what he said and went to live in both Pharaoh’s then Abimilech’s homes to the peril of these men.

I suggest that this issue is controversial because no man in his right mind will do anything like this. What’s yours is yours. Did God engineer the plot to get the wealth of the heathen into Abraham’s hand? Maybe He did. Was Sarah protected from their sexual advances while in their homes? Abimilech did not touch her, but nothing is said of Pharaoh. I believe that God covered her. Was Abraham interceding daily for his wife’s protection and return? This must have been the case.

The lesson that we need to learn from this couple is that love is not blind. Submission in marriage has to be based on the principles of the word of God as well as the rhema for your lives. Couples need to prayerfully examine the potential consequences of their actions because these can have long-term effects, as we can see from the tension between the Arabs and the Jews up to today. We cannot blindly jump into the fire in order to please a mate unless the Lord has absolutely spoken on the issue. When He has, He will never lead a couple astray, nor out of His will and will always confirm His will by signs following or by giving evidence that this is indeed the way to go. There is just one final word for men who love to have other women (concubines) apart from their wives. Do you see the confusion that ensues?

Well, blessings on you and more to come next time.