Greetings to the Father, angels and saints in Christ. I was going to talk about Boaz and Ruth, but I hear the Spirit say “Christ and His Church”. If I had space, I would have written the title as “The law of undying love – VII (Christ and His Church – Feel the vibes). I say “feel the vibes”, because there is a clinical and emotional or romantic dimension in love/marriage. The clinical component is what I call “the head part of love – loving with your head”. This is the component which we saw in most of the marriages we examined. This is the committment to loving that individual and no one else, the faithfulness, the mercy, the submission, the obedience etc.

The emotional or romantic dimension was hinted at in Adam’s reaction to Eve, the love of Isaac and Rebekah and explored in detail in the love of Solomon’s wife for him. By and large, it seems that the Bible hardly delves into the romanticism of love. As humans, we need the romantic dimension of love because we are made in the image of God. He experiences emotions and so do we. We know that He is a jealous God, but He is also a loving God. The romantic dimension of love comes out in the hugs, kisses, verbal declarations of love, eye contact, hand holding, touching etc.

The question is whether or not God expresses His love to us in emotional ways. Yes He does. Read the scriptures. He is a possessive lover of His people and expresses jealousy when we betray this love with other gods. When He is rejected, He flies into jealous rages and “gets” the loved one. Don’t think that you can treat God any old way you feel just because you are highly favored by Him. Not at all. This is the time to become more attentive to giving Him His worship, His money, His time, His attention etc. You will pay the price if you don’t. Look at how He dealt with the people of Israel. Don’t people fly into jealous rages and destroy the object of their love? This is not socially acceptable. You will be imprisoned. Only God has the right because His ways and laws are above ours, as Isa 59 says. He is such a l over of His people that He puts a hedge around us and warns the enemy not to touch us. That makes us feel safe and protected by this strong God – man of war. In the scriptures, He continually shows by example, His reactions to those who touch His people. He puts up a sign on His territory (we His people) that warns, Beware, God’s people.

Those who trust and love Him are always be delivered (we need to give the angels work to do – some of us are not calling for help). In other words, if you are blind, bold, beautiful and crazy, that means, “Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm” (1 Chron 16: 22, Ps 105:15). Tell that man or woman to take their hands off your mate. You don’t want them touching, stroking or coming too close etc. Do you how bold some hunters are, especially women, I mean women in the church as well? I am serious, because I look and learn. Sometimes you see them on TV, “interviewing” the man of God and treating him like that. Get in between them and gently remove their marauding hands (you don’t want to fight), hold unto your mate lovingly or give them the “look”. You have to teach your mate self defense, how to move away, brush those hands away. They like to push their bodies up close and personal. Beware of these people. They are marriage destroyers.

I once loked at a certain gospel channel on which a certain gospel singer (a female), snuggled up to a well known gospel singer with whom she was doing an interview. I say snuggled because that is what she was doing. I fumed and fretted for the sake of the gospel and the wife of that man. Now you know what kind of wife I will be. Wives, you have to protect your mate from danger! If this is a so called friend, end the friendship. Keep those devils away. As we continue to examine the emotional dimension of Christ’s love for His church, look at how He nourishes and cherishes the church. The book of Eph 1 gives us some of the ways in which He does so. He spends time with us and downloads information about Himself so we can be closer in relationship. Have you ever seen a mother tenderly take care of her baby?

Ever saw a gardener nourish and protect the plants? Is there a tender expression of your love to your mate? Any demonstration of tenderness in the way you treat your mate or do you treat him or her like any old person? Do you reserve tender expressions only for the brethren? Do you treat your mate like a king or queen, in the same way that God calls us royalty and priests. Take your marriage to a new level. Have you ever had something that was valuable and you did everything in your power to preserve? No one touch my stuff!

Listen to how Zephaniah expressed the love of God for His people in 3: 17 –

“The LORD thy God in the midst of thee is mighty; he will save, he will rejoice over thee with joy; he will rest in his love, he will joy over thee with singing”.

He rejoices over us with joy and singing. Do you express your love for your precious mate by singing and rejoicing over them? Hmm. You need to become romantic. He rests in His love. In other words, His love satisfies and causes Him peace in much the same way that Isaac was comforted by Rebekah’s love. Does yor love satisfy and cause you peace? There are so many expressions of the emotional love of God for His people in scriptures that I cannot say it all. I would just encourage you to read the scriptures in a new light and try to copy these into your marriage. Look, for example, at how the disciples responded to the infilling of the Holy Spirit. They became drunk in the spirit. This drunken state, from my experience, is like getting “a high”. Although I have never had a high from another source, I know that people get highs to escape their trouble or to escape reality.

Well the spiritual high is really even better. When you get there, there is such a sense of the presence of the Lord. You feel loved, accepted by God and delivered from your problems (and deliverance is usually manifested in reality at some immediate or later time). There is a sense of peace adn security that comes from being in the presence of the love of God. This is the time for the believer to “feel the vibes”. One of the best ways to enter this experience is through worship. The worshipper becomes elevated into the tangible presence of God and the experience is unbelievably refreshing, exhilirating, joyful and peaceful. If your marraige and lovemaking are like this then you are experiencing the mystery of Christ and His church that Paul talked about in Ephesians 5.

What more can I say? The best way is to experience what I am talking about. For those of you who are married, I hope that you will seek the scriptures using the principles that I talked about today to help you heighten and perfect the emotional dimension of your marriage. I was about to finish when I remembered the book of Revelation. Let me take a look. The elders before the throne express a high degree of emotion. They are so in awe of the greatness of the LOrd God Almighty that they don’t know how to express it. These elders fall down before Him, worship and cast down their crowns before the throne, saying, “Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created” (Rev 4: 10, 11).

What is the highest way in which you express your emotions of love to your mate? God is so humorous that He gives us displays of His greatness and power to help us to experience an emotional response. For example, when He revealed Himself in Sinai (Ex 19: 16-20), it was with a grand display that superseded the fireworks on New Years – there were

“thunders and lightnings, and a thick cloud upon the mount, and the voice of the trumpet exceeding loud; so that all the people that was in the camp trembled. …

And mount Sinai was altogether on a smoke, because the LORD descended upon it in fire: and the smoke thereof ascended as the smoke of a furnace, and the whole mount quaked greatly.

And when the voice of the trumpet sounded long, and waxed louder and louder, Moses spake, and God answered him by a voice.

And the LORD came down upon mount Sinai, on the top of the mount: and the LORD called Moses up to the top of the mount; and Moses went up”.

How can you help each other to experience the emotional high of your mutual love? Do you get the “trembles” around your mate, or is he or she just that man or woman you are married to? Is there any emotional excitement in your marriage? How do you keep it alive? Do you plan private and personal events together to keep the flame alive? Any new and exciting clothing such as night wear? Any fragrances to make your mate tremble? Any new moves in bed? Same old lovemaking moves of 10 or 20 years ago? Any touching, hugging, kissing in this marriage?

Check out the Songs of Solomon which is the closest that you will come to a rated R book in the scriptures. That wife was not an inhibited lover? Uh uh. She was black, bold and beautiful. This is why Paul says that marriage is honorable and the bed is undefiled (Heb 13:4). Why did Paul suddenly make this reference out of the blue in Heb 13? He seems to be giving a list of guidelines on any topic that he could think about. Is he rambling? Don’t we think aloud on diferrent unrelated points, sometimes planning to develop them at a later date or having some underlying thoughts on the issue?

So much to say and so little time. Do I have the right to talk like this, having never been married? Is God married? How did He get this information on marriage? Who taught Him knowledge and understanding? Was Paul married? Who gave him the right to teach on marriage (1 Cor 7, Eph 5 etc)? No other apostle wrote on the topic. Well, you will know the truth and the truth will make you free in your marriage, will help you to put away the mind sets and come out of the social and religious boxes.

Got to run. See you later and blessings

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